Situation 1: My girlfriend has been in Ontario for 2 weeks visiting family. Her first call to me when she got back was to complain about another friend leaving her apartment in a "pig sty". I was in a good mood when she called me; I kind of didn't feel like hearing the rant. In fact, I like this friend, but not having her calling me for 2 weeks (usually complaining) was actually kind of peaceful.
Situation 2: My roommate is still afraid of me. I'm trying to get a time for us to sit down and have brunch, coffee or anything, just so we can chat before school starts for me and I get stressed out again. She hasn't really taken to the idea, but yet, she's unhappy living here. I'm at a loss. How do you talk with someone who is too insecure to talk to you? I'm not perfect, but this isn't my fault.
Situation 3: My old best friend called from Montreal last night. I was with my boyfriend and his good friend. My friend told me a 30 minute story, non-stop. She's always been more of a talker than a listener. She asked how things were going with my boyfriend and I told her honestly that it's going really well. This friend hasn't had a relationship in like, 7 years. (There's are reasons for this). She has always been jealous of me for having male attention. I guess I can understand, but by the same token, if you're jealous, don't call. We won't be friends if it makes you uncomfortable. She said some pretty rude things (in "jest") last night while we talked, such as when I said my boyfriend is a really nice guy. She responded, "He'd have to be to be with you". :-0
Huh?
She also pointed out that it's hard enough to be my friend, let alone my boyfriend.
Again, huh?
She then made sure that I had her phone number and told me, almost pleaded, for me to call her once in a while. I realized it's very clear she's kind of lonely and feeling a bit unsure these days, but don't call and be rude. Why she continues (year after year) to treat me badly, then expects friendship, I'll never understand. And frankly yes, I'm afraid to tell her how I feel because she is the kind of woman she never wanted to be. Her mother. A woman who cannot take criticism, or brutal honesty, without becoming vicious. I shake my head at it and feel greatful that she lives in Quebec, the other side of the country.
Anyway, so basically, between my girlfriend, my roommate, and my friend in Montreal, yesterday kind of got me down. It felt like everyone around me was miserable! And it sucked.
Now, I totally get down myself, and I know what it feels like to feel like shit. But GEEZ people, snap out of it! You can't bring everyone else down just 'cause you're miserable. At least my boyfriend is chipper.
I just called a girlfriend now. Someone outside of my regular circle who is generally in a good mood. I need to be around someone happy -- no more negativity!
That's it. I have to go get ready for coffee.
